Making Decisions for YOURSELF

Life is really a series of choices and forks in the road and it's up to us to make the right decisions when confronted with them. I am very guilty of making decisions for other people and this is something that I have struggled with in the past. Please note that there is NOTHING wrong with considering others when you make some decisions. For example, when deciding whether or not to get a dog, it's probably smart to consider your roommates, because this decision will affect them. What I am really talking about in this post is the bigger decisions.

Over the past 9 months I have struggled with where I want to live. I grew up in Minnesota and then moved to California when I was 16. There are great things about both places and I love both for different reasons. For the past 7 months I have been back in Minnesota and I do enjoy it here, but it has been challenging to be away from my mom and my closest friends. Granted, I have more family in Minnesota and I do still have friends here. That said, it is really difficult to beat the relationship that one has with their mother.

Since moving to Minnesota I have bounced around the idea of going back to California. After all, I was a film major. Recently I actually went as far as to quit my job and start making plans to move, only to go back to my boss and beg to keep my job here in Minnesota. Why? I realized something very key. I wasn't making the decision for myself. I was making it for all those people that kept telling me it was in my best interest to move back. I am learning that life's biggest decisions HAVE to be 100% about you and what you need. What I need is to be home. This place, is where I feel most at home and most like myself.

I urge everyone to really think about their choices and wonder who they're making them for or why they're making them. After all, you need to be the best you in order to give yourself to others. I really wouldn't have been a great friend to my friends out there if I wasn't happy with my decision.